Therapy for soon-to-be and newly married couples

Navigating the challenges and changes of life after saying “I do”.

Is your post-wedding marriage not like what you see in the movies or what you expected?  

Starting to feel nervous and overwhelmed as the big day gets closer?

Marriage is a beautiful but far from perfect aspect of life, especially in the first couple of years. The shift from engaged to married is far more than a title change. Regardless of how much you love your partner, transitioning to being together as one, while also being your own individual self is a difficult process. You find yourselves acting in ways that don’t feel true to who you are. You are struggling to properly communicate and regulate your emotions. You are fighting more than you ever imagined you would be. The thought of doing this forever evokes some fear and anxiety.

“The relationship with the one you marry provides 90% of your happiness and 90% of your misery”

- H. Jackonson brown jr

  • Balance independence and intimacy

  • Communicate calmly,clearly, and empathetically  

  • work through conflict without escalating

  • Manage emotions and co-regulate

  • establish common goals and direction

  • Have the hard conversations

I help couples adjust to life together and work through the early challenges of marriage so they can grow closer, communicate better, and build a strong foundation for the future by learning how to:

If you’re ready to…

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Build your relationship on a foundation of unconditional love, healthy communication, and congruence

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Change the trajectory of your relationship

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Make your relationship a source of joy instead of annoyance and frustration

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Have relationship that can stand the test of time and persevere through life’s most difficult seasons

…then let’s get to work.

  • Not at all. Relationships are hard and we are never directly taught how to have thriving relationships. We learn how to act in relationships through other relationships we have witnessed (mostly our parents) and past relationship experiences. Couples counseling can help you and your partner heal from past relationships that significantly shaped your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and learn the skills and mechanisms for having a relationship that truly feels good.

  • Whether you come to couples counseling in a ‘good’ spot, or your relationship is hanging on by a thread, it is important to keep a few things in mind. The success of couples counseling is dependent on the severity of the presenting issues, commitment of both partners, ability to be honest, accountable and self-aware, and willingness to change. Additionally, true change takes time and requires effort outside of session. There are 10,080 minutes in a week. Couples counseling consumes only 50 of those minutes. What is worked on and learned in session needs to be practiced and implemented outside of session for change to be meaningful and lasting.

  • Couples counseling is unique to each couple and what they are working towards. But here’s what I can tell you. My job is not to be a moderator or on any individual’s “side”. My job is to work collaboratively with couples in uncovering the deeper meanings behind their behaviors, attitudes, and expectations within the relationship, helping define relational needs, working through intense feelings, and providing guidance for being the best partners for each other.

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